Kindness emerges from someone who’s confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves. A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart. At the root of extreme niceness, however, are feelings of inadequacy and the need to get approval and validation from others.
So when we react strongly to something, we can ask ourselves, “Am I reacting to what’s happening in this moment, or am I instinctively slipping into patterns from my past?” When we are stressed, we are more likely to revert to a less functional style of parenting, especially when our default is based in an insecure style of attachment.
— Read on momentousinstitute.org/blog/how-our-own-attachment-style-impacts-our-relationships
Slavery, plague, and territorial conflict likely made the Europeans’ arrival on Wampanoag land possible.
— Read on www.atlasobscura.com/articles/pilgrims-plymouth-colony-patuxet.amp
LOUDON COUNTY, Tenn. — When Olympia Bynum was 6 years old, her grandmother gave her an index card that said to be in Loudon, Tenn. on June 20, 2020. “50 years seems like a long time until you get to this side of it,” Bynum said.
— Read on www.newsbreakapp.com/n/0PRntBvG
Interesting article on a 45 year study on gifted kids.
The psychologist Carol Dweck has found that successful people tend to keep what’s known as a “growth mindset” as opposed to a “fixed mindset.” They view themselves as fluid, changing beings that can adapt and grow — they are not static.
A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.” He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.” The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.” The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”
The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.” That’s our problem too. We make unnecessary comparison with others and become sad. We don’t value what God has given us. This all leads to the vicious cycle of unhappiness. Learn to be happy in what you have instead of looking at what you don’t have. There will always be someone who will have more or less than you have. The person who is satisfied with what he/she has, is the happiest person in the world.
The act of labeling an emotion distances you from it and gives you a moment to pause your reaction to it. It works for dealing with your own negative emotions, for responding to children in their meltdowns, and for dealing with everyone else. Plus, by saying “he” or “she” is feeling X emotion, you’re stating that someone else is feeling it, not necessarily yourself. Language becomes a barrier between the feeling and your thoughts and makes those feelings less overwhelming.